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How same-sex divorce is different from heterosexual divorces

Ever since the Supreme Court ruled in 2015 that a commitment of love between two people can be equal through the recognition of same-sex marriage, there has been much celebration and relief among many. However, there is another side to marriage that is not so easily cheered, that same-sex couples can divorce as well.

The problem that many same sex-couples are running into is that with all this new equality being provided them, it may not be so equal when it comes to divorce.

Surprising facts you may not know about gray divorce

It can be difficult for people to understand why a married couple who has been married for 20, 30 or even 40 years has chosen to divorce. One reason it can be hard to comprehend this decision is because it was once a relatively rare occurrence for older Americans to make. However, the flood gates of gray divorce have been knocked down in recent years. Since 1990, the divorce rate for couples over 50 have doubled.

Many people assume that gray divorce is spurred on by one person in the marriage who is going through a mid-life crisis. It can also be assumed that the decision to divorce has been a long-held desire that can finally come to fruition in later life. However, even though these scenarios can play a part in gray divorce, they are not the only reason why older Americans choose to divorce. Here are some potentially surprising facts you should know about gray divorce.

Tips to help make your shared parenting plan work

One of the most complicated and difficult aspects of working through a divorce is completing a satisfactory parenting plan. The divorce may already be hard on the children and you will undoubtedly want to make the custody arrangement be as seamless as it can be. Working with your attorney will be crucial during the planning of your custody agreement to make sure everything is compliant, but there are things you can also keep in mind. 

Preparing your finances for post-divorce life

Going through a divorce is stressful, but you might be even more worried about what your life will be like after your divorce is over. From thinking about your finances, to navigating your social life, divorce will certainly have an impact on many parts of your life. Living without your spouse will be different, but it does not have to be difficult.

Figuring out your financial situation might be the most complicated part of your post-divorce life, but there are steps you can take ahead of time to make it easier for you in the long run.

Don’t let emotions ruin your divorce case

Divorcing your spouse is an emotional time, there can be no doubt about it. Separating from someone you once thought you would spend your entire life with can be extremely difficult and your emotions may be high. While this is normal, you cannot let your emotions run your life during this time. It is important to express your emotions in a healthy way, but too many negative emotions can ruin your divorce if you let them.

There are many decisions you will have to make during this process and keeping a clear head can help you come out of the divorce successfully on your feet. There are a few ways you can learn to manage your emotions and keep your head while you go through this tumultuous time.

Building and maintaining resilience after a gray divorce

Since the 1990s, the divorce rates among U.S. adults 50 or older has nearly doubled. The uptick is partially due to people living longer in general. With a longer life comes re-evaluation and a chance to leave an unhappy situation in the hopes of finding a fresh start.

Consequences of divorce when kids are in college

Family is important to many Massachusetts parents. When kids are young and in the house, parents may feel more obligated to stay together to raise their kids. Two-parent households often feel more effective in raising children.

But when kids go to college parents may think it is a good time to split up and finally get a divorce. Parents may think this will be an easier time to divorce since the kids are out of the house and may feel less affected by it.

Modifications of divorce in Massachusetts

Every divorce is different. As circumstances change, your divorce agreement may need a divorce modification. Once approved by the judge, your divorce agreement becomes an order of the court. Even if both parties agree to a change made in the agreement, it may be wise to submit the modification to the court for approval.

A case that results in a modification typically involves a substantial change. These changes may range from the loss of a job that affects child support to a case where one parent moves out of state. It is important that your divorce agreement be drafted properly so that the court can modify it.

Fuel for Thought: Higher Education

For many parents, the summer months are a time for vacations, relaxation and time spent with their children. Yet, with each summer that passes, parents may be more aware of the looming costs for their children's higher education.

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