With the latter months of the year, holiday seasons spring upon us. And with that comes a lot of holiday cheer, whether it be at work, in malls, or in entertainment. But divorce makes it harder to take part in festivities, complicating emotions. One hard component of this is co-parenting. You know how important the holidays were for you growing up, and you don’t want the split between you and your partner to dampen the mood. But you’re also aware that if you came together with your ex-spouse, the drama could escalate even more.
Holidays are a time to be grateful for what you have. But what you have sure doesn’t make you feel too good about yourself. Still, keeping your chin up and giving your children a good time is possible.
Managing the holidays after divorce
1. Having a plan: While making plans can be the most stressful part of the holiday, having a semblance of order when it comes to who gets the kids can make a world of a difference. And sure, something last minute might pop up that changes arrangements, but having a set time for things makes a difference.
2. Consider spending some time together as a whole family: Children tend to become more sensitive around the holidays, aware of how much culture becomes entrenched in the value of “family time.” If you and your ex-spouse can swallow your pride and wear smiles, think of how much it could mean to the kids.
3. Keep gifts moderate: Seeing joy in your children’s eyes may be exciting, but keep in mind that they perceive competition between you and your spouse when it comes to presents.
Conflicting feelings shouldn’t send you reeling
Consumers often feel the push of holiday sentiment at the end of the year, and it can be hard to take part when divorce is fresh on your mind. Still you recognize the importance of your children’s holiday time, and because of that you want to try to make it special. Showing love and compassion while exercising compromise is a cornerstone of co-parenting and it’s no different when it comes to the holiday season. Proceed with educated caution, and don’t forget to have some fun. If you’re interested in learning more about coping with divorce and general family law, reach out to a legal professional.