Every generation of parents has the opportunity to respond to new evidence in best parenting practices. Today, a popular co-parenting arrangement called nesting, is being championed as the most child-centered approach.
Traditionally, as a marriage ends, each couple finds a new home and the children move back and forth between the two homes. Nesting is an arrangement where divorced or separated couples rotate being in the family home with the children. Get to know this option before deciding if it’s right for you.
Children benefit greatly from stability and routine. When the children remain in the family home with each parent alternately present, there is less disruption and less uncertainty. While in the comforts of their own home, surrounded by their neighborhood friends, children can adjust to the idea that their parents are no longer together.
The other home
Each couple can decide whether they will spend their non-parenting time in a shared second dwelling, or if they will each have their own second space. The downside to this, of course, is the expense of a second home. Additionally, if you decide to share that second home with your co-parent, issues that led to the dissolution of your marriage may continue to haunt you if boundaries are not set and adhered to.
Is it right for you?
Every family unit is different and parenting plans need to take that into account. What we know, however, is that parents who put their children first, tend to have the most successful outcomes. However it is that you choose to co-parent, know that creating a strong partnership in the wake of your marriage ending is possible. The hard work and dedication that you put in is likely to pay itself back many times over.