It’s New Year’s Eve and as residents throughout Massachusetts prepare to ring in 2016, many are likely reflecting on the status of their relationships and personal lives. For those individuals who are going through or who plan to soon file for divorce, the process can be mentally taxing and emotionally draining.
Often these feelings are intensified by something a soon-to-be ex-spouse says or does or by general feelings of not being in control of one’s life and current circumstances. While change is inherent to the divorce process and anyone who goes through a divorce will likely, at some point, feel a bit uneasy and disoriented; your attitude and outlook can either positively or negatively affect your overall mental health and wellbeing.
When starting or going through the divorce process, it’s important to be confident and to stop obsessing about and over-thinking every decision and conversation. It’s also important to keep your focus on the future and not to dwell on the past. Keeping the focus on yourself and your children can help you remember what really matters and keep things in perspective.
For soon-to-be or recent divorcees with children, it’s important to establish a mutually-respectful relationship with your ex. For better or worse, children mean that your ex-spouse will always be in your life and it’s therefore crucial to find a way to communicate effectively and work together to ensure for the wellbeing of shared children.
As with any major change in your life, it will take time to adjust to the changes that accompany the divorce process. During this period of adjustment, a little patience and perseverance can go a long way to helping you get through the more challenging times and appreciate the opportunities that lay ahead.
Source: The Huffington Post, “9 New Year’s Resolutions for the Newly Divorced,” Nicole Gussick, Dec. 30, 2015